Are you the one who does something due to impulse then regret?

Or do you get anger instantly? And don’t know what you do and weren’t you able to overcome it? Then you must be thinking about anger management.

And this post is for you. Even I was the same person before. However, I am not saying that I turned into a monk kind of person now. But right now, I have more control over anger. Though sometimes I get triggered easily.

Let’s get started.

What is Anger?

Anger is an emotional status when you have an unpleasant feeling due to injury or mistreatment. It helps you to express negative feelings you get due to the situation by outbursting.

However, you lose control over what you do and your intelligence when you are angry. It is because your ego takes you over to become you in those situations.

Anger is an inbuilt mechanism to respond to either external stimuli or internal conflict. For example, you may get angry on seeing someone you hate or worrying due to your problems.

You may either hurt someone or hurt yourself when you are angry, either physically or emotionally. Sometimes those persons maybe your loved ones as well.

Art of Anger

Recently I watched a movie called “Hey Pillagada” starring Sai Pallavi and Dulquer Salmaan. Hero is a very aggressive person and can be triggered easily for silly things, and even the kids can provoke him easily. And he reacts to their acts also more. However, one day due to some situations and his anger, they land into a lot of trouble. That inspired me to write an article on the butterfly effect.

Also, it raised a thought in me to write on anger management as well. The present scenario is such a way that the majority of the people has less emotional quotient. Due to which the majority are losing control over their emotions.

Things I Learnt On Anger Management

Have you ever observed kids when they are crying? They will continue to cry if you try to console on noticing. But stop it if you focus on your work and pretend that you haven’t noticed them. The same thing happens when you don’t give energy to your anger or external stimuli that causes it. Everything is powerless without your focus in general.

The book “Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle” also suggested the same not to give our energy to the ego when we get hurt or get angry and observe the reaction as a third person. It may be difficult in the beginning, and with time you can get control over your anger.

You can also focus on delaying the response when you are angry. Like, you can postpone reacting to any situation that provokes you for three days or a week. I experienced it in my life as well. Irrespective of how balanced I am, I can’t control myself if I have to deal with someone. The delayed response worked well for me.

Final Thoughts

Anger is a common emotion. But it should be in your control, and if you let it control you, your life will turn into a mess. Moreover, delayed response, not giving energy to your anger will help you in anger management.

I hope you found this post helpful. What are you going to do from today? Will you delay the response or observe your emotions like a third person? Let me know by commenting below. I read every comment and respond.