Are you thinking about why you are facing the problems that you have now? If there is one key reason for all of your challenges, what do you think it would be?

Shall I tell you some instances which causes discomfort or challenges to the people that finally cause loss?

Let me take it as a nod and share them.

A Highly Talented Guy Who Always Get Stuck in Life

I know a person who is one of the most talented people I know. However, he faced a lot of struggles in his life. He is the right fit for the job he applied for but the only one who didn’t get it.

He always has problems with different people. He is good at analytical skills. However, most of his choices go wrong. So, most of the time, he spends most of his energy fixing the problems he creates.

Or sometimes, his choices worsen the situation of his loved ones.

Let me share some of the things he did.

1. In the job interview, though he is efficient, he didn’t impress the interviewers.
2. He is a great companion and never hurts anyone. However, his friends sometimes pay the price for his deeds.
3. He is most capable of his job but fails to accomplish them and never takes that first step.
4. Sometimes he works very hard to face certain things but gets annoyed or laugh at his efforts.

He can create problems that don’t exist. Do you want to know the reason? Then let’s step into the next section.

Want to Know Why? | The Reason for 93% of the Problems

It is quite common. — Judging mentality, creativity. Creative people won’t think at all. They make assumptions. He is indifferent, so he assumes and judges everything and acts accordingly. If they are correct, he will succeed at them.

However, in the majority of the situations, they would be wrong. And they would suffer.

You can now connect the dots backwards then everything makes sense. 

1. Due to his negative thinking, he thought the interviewers wouldn’t hire him as he is not good enough. So, even though he is capable, his responses would be wrong.
2. When his friends are wrong, he won’t confront them. — As it might hurt them. Because of this, his friends never get a chance to understand where they are wrong. So, they pay more price as they would be continuing as they are.
3. He always thinks that something is missing. So, fail to take the first step when working on new assignments.
4. He creates problems that don’t even exist. If you want to know more about this, you can refer post, “why are you confused in life“.

Solution

We are not on this planet to judge everything. So, we have to take all of those presumptions and take time to understand good from bad and take decisions. The best solution is to reconfirm if your thoughts are correct by asking the other person and knowing their version when communicating.

Also, put the pieces of information together to comprehend and make better decisions. Empathising is one more way to overcome this. When you put yourself into the shoes of, others you would be in a better position to understand what is right.